HI, I’M SOPHIA
IT’S TIME TO BREAK TOXIC RELATIONSHIP CYCLES
AND UNLOCK SECURE RELATIONSHIPS
“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.”
— Socrates
I see you struggling, the way I did, in toxic relationship patterns that leave you feeling unseen, unheard, and unworthy.
I see you caught in cycles of narcissistic discard, reverse discard, or an endless pattern of making up and breaking up.
I see you are burdened by guilt and shame for enduring the abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting for so long.
I see you questioning your worth, questioning if you’re good enough, questioning if you even matter.
I see your sensitivity surrounding rejection, failure, loss, and abandonment.
I see the façade of your high achievements concealing your unconscious dependency on others.
I see you consistently struggling to uphold those healthy boundaries.
“These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb.”
— Najwa Zebian
This does not have to be your relationship pattern.
You no longer need to endure struggles or feel trapped in your relationships. I understand your experience deeply, as I faced similar challenges until six years ago.
You aspire to embrace your empowered feminine energy and build relationships grounded in balance, respect, and love—but you may be uncertain about the path to reach that place. I am here to support you on this journey!
Hi, I’m Sophia.
I am dedicated to empowering Muslim women to heal their inner child and foster secure relationships.
As the founder of Stop Avoiding Yourself®, I take pride in offering a transformative program that combines hypnotherapy and coaching. This program effectively addresses daily stressors, anxiety, trauma, and narcissistic abuse, guiding you toward enduring personal growth and resilience.
Our innate yearning for connection and belonging fuels my mission: to support you on your spiritual journey in creating secure connections and a profound sense of belonging…
within your life and relationships.
Here is my story.
one thing I’ve always prided myself on is how strong and independent I am…
I often found it perplexing that I could achieve remarkable success in my corporate career while simultaneously struggling in my love life. For over ten years, I repeatedly fell into the same cycle, attracting emotionally unavailable or toxic men who treated me poorly.
Initially, they expressed a keen interest in me, offering a great deal of attention and admiration. However, this would soon shift to a withdrawal, resulting in a cold, distant demeanor coupled with derogatory remarks directed at me. I wouldn’t hesitate to walk away and move on.
In my early 30s, I encountered a man who clouded my judgment, leading me to disregard my instincts and remain in a toxic relationship that ultimately resulted in marriage. He deceived me consistently during our time together and subjected me to various forms of abuse.
Why did I remain in the relationship?
In that moment, I was emotionally vulnerable, and he adeptly exploited that vulnerability to his advantage. This manipulation led me deeper into a commitment trap, ultimately resulting in our marriage and the life we built together. I recognize now that I should have left him when he was abusive, but I eventually made the choice to leave after learning of his infidelity. During the separation, I discovered he had been battling a cocaine addiction throughout our entire relationship, along with uncovering other lies. It astonished me how I overlooked so many red flags and allowed the situation to continue for so long. Those questions lingered in my mind for quite some time.
Breaking out of this toxic relationship was both turbulent and eye-opening!
I never wished to endure that experience again or accept anything less, especially now that I am a mother, with so much at stake.
This toxic marriage and its subsequent dissolution ultimately ignited my transformation, as I came to realize that I was the common factor allowing toxic relationships to become a standard in my life.
Admitting this to myself was challenging yet rewarding.
I finally recognized my responsibility in deciding who I allowed into my life, which also meant I had the power to make different choices if I wished.
However, the challenge was that I didn’t know how to make those different choices, nor where to start.
In the past, my experiences with therapy and counselling had been insightful, but I still felt uncertain about the next steps.
Previously, when I sought to regain control over my life, I focused exclusively on altering my external circumstances. I would shop, socialize, and modify my appearance. During my “quarter-life crisis” in my twenties, I even resorted to plastic surgery and purchased a Mercedes — all within a span of seven months!! This led to significant expenses, yet I found that I felt no different internally, and my external situation remained unchanged.
My strong, independent, high-achieving woman exterior was kind of a facade and double-edged sword.
I refused to show any signs of vulnerability to others or give the impression that I required assistance—I felt the need to project strength, independence, and resilience. For instance, after each of my plastic surgeries, I would recover primarily in solitude, then return to work the following day or soon after, as if nothing had occurred. I denied myself the opportunity to experience anything—I felt nothing at all; no physical pain, no emotions.
I became entirely numb and concentrated solely on my strengths, seeking validation through my career.
So why am I sharing this with you? I appeared strong and resilient, but inside, I was in pain. I had constructed a tough facade, believing it would safeguard me from external hurt, yet I struggled to acknowledge the depth of my internal suffering.
Eventually, I recognized that this approach was ineffective. Although I couldn’t initially understand what was hindering my ability to find genuine love and a sense of belonging, I realized that merely reflecting on my past experiences with healing and relationships was insufficient. After my divorce from my narcissistic ex, I decided to work with a Coach, and it was at this critical point in my healing journey that I felt a significant shift.
My Coach was trauma-informed, emphasizing the significance of balancing masculine and feminine energy dynamics in our sessions together.
This marked the true beginning of my inner transformation.
Every internal change I made resulted in corresponding and even greater changes in my external life and relationships.
As a child, I was aware that I faced considerable stress and trauma, which I mistakenly believed contributed to my strength and resilience.
Over time, I came to understand that while I had tapped into my masculine energy and dedicated myself to achieving success in my career, I neglected to address and heal from the pain of my childhood experiences. This unaddressed hurt negatively impacted my relationships.
I found myself over-functioning both at work and in my personal relationships, heavily embodying my masculine energy while feeling disconnected from my feminine side. Though I experienced a sense of power and success, and felt in control of my life and career, something was amiss. I remained single and struggled to understand how to attract a decent masculine man and cultivate a secure, healthy, and loving relationship.
Having been married before and now raising a child, I was determined to get it right this time by choosing a man who would be my forever partner.
This desire was intense for me, and even more so, I wanted this for my son’s future.
My traumatic childhood led me to become hyper-independent, high-achieving, and resilient as an adult. In contrast, my son’s complete dependence on me for care prompted a profound inward journey. This journey enabled me to heal my inner child and embrace my empowered feminine energy. As a result, I was able to unlock a secure and healthy relationship and create a nurturing home where he could thrive securely.
The journey of healing and transformation proved challenging for me due to my inherent tendency to embody masculine energy.
I am driven, focused, and ambitious. Throughout my adult life, I maintained control and rarely allowed myself to be vulnerable or open up to the right people in my inner circle, which made it difficult for them to positively impact my life.
The concepts of ‘vulnerability’ and ‘permitting influence from others’ were daunting for me.
I was a strong, independent woman equipped with impenetrable defences; yet, paradoxically, I found myself allowing only toxic people into my life. Through my inner work, I came to recognize the inconsistency in my thought processes during that period, and I committed to transforming it.
I observed how some women effortlessly attract genuine masculine partners. These women embody balance, understanding when to embrace their feminine energy and when to assert their masculine side. I noticed that these empowered women are cherished and respected by their equally empowered husband, fostering a dynamic devoid of power struggles or disrespect. Instead, they represent harmonious and fulfilling relationships. Their family environments are nurturing, safe, respectful, and loving.
As I began my healing journey, I became increasingly aware of these women and their relationships, and they instantly became my inspiration.
Exploring my inner self through hypnotherapy and coaching led to a profound transformation. This experience motivated me to transition from the corporate world to the wellness field. Throughout this journey, I have personally invested over $60,000 in my training and transformation as a wellness practitioner. While that figure may seem significant, the investment reflects my strong belief in the comprehensive elements required for my healing and growth. It’s important to note that achieving transformation doesn’t necessarily require such an extensive financial commitment as I did. The comprehensive healing and transformation I was searching for myself wasn’t available anywhere as a single offering. That’s why I make it a point to deliver a comprehensive coaching program that supports my Client’s healing and empowerment holistically.
I have finally discovered all the treasures I was in search of
I am thankful for the years spent exploring and finding:
A calm mind.
Inner-peace.
Healthy boundaries.
My authentic-voice.
A sense of connection and belonging in my love life.
My tribe.
Trust in God.
Joy.
Empowering myself and, in turn, supporting high-achieving, ambitious Muslim women has been a profound honor and source of fulfillment. I developed my signature transformation program as a ‘reparenting blueprint’ to offer structured guidance on your healing and transformation journey. It is entirely possible for you to heal your inner child and cultivate secure relationships!
It’s your time to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and unlock everlasting love.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
— Rumi
Some Fun Facts About Me.
I was born in Afghanistan, lived in India for 4-years, and then moved to Canada.
I understand 4 languages: Dari, Hindi, French, and English (which is the only language I’m currently fluent in).
I love all the sunnah sports: archery, swimming, MMA, and horseback riding.
I love living in the city and being in the heart of the hustle and bustle, and to balance that I love going camping (in a tent) and hiking in nature.
If I had to pick between beach or mountains, I’d pick both. Why choose?
I survived an abusive narcissistic marriage, was a single mom for 5 year until I met the love of my life, and now my husband and I have a blended family of 6 ~ Alhumdulilah :)
My EQ Assessments:
Emotional Type: Empath
Personality Type: ENFJ-A
Communication Style: Driver
Temperament: Choleric
Love Language: Acts of Service
Professional Bio
Sophia Dadshani is a certified Life and Relationship Coach and Hypnotherapist. She started her career in the corporate sector as a consultant and has since broadening her expertise through additional training and certifications in coaching and hypnotherapy.
Sophia is dedicated to empowering Muslim women to heal their inner child, enabling them to establish secure relationships through her signature transformational program, ‘The Reparenting Blueprint’.
As the founder of Stop Avoiding Yourself®, Sophia has developed a transformative program that skillfully combines her knowledge in consulting, coaching, and hypnotherapy. This program is designed to support Muslim women in navigating relationship challenges while effectively managing everyday stress, anxiety, trauma, and the effects of narcissistic abuse, ultimately fostering enduring personal growth and resilience in her clients.
Sophia holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science and a Graduate Certificate in Project Management. She is certified in Rori Raye Relationship Coach Training (RRRCT) and is a certified Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner (RTTP) specializing in hypnotherapy. Dedicated to her professional growth in the wellness sector, Sophia is currently pursuing further training in Hijama (cupping therapy).
Holistic healing forms the core of the support provided by Stop Avoiding Yourself®. Sophia integrates the mind, body, soul, and spirit into the healing process, drawing on the rich insights from ancient Greek medicine regarding the Temperaments. Understanding oneself is the foundation of wisdom and the initiation of your healing journey. Self-awareness is a crucial first step toward transformation.